Will you go Dutch with your husband/wife after marriage?

Will you go Dutch with your husband/wife after marriage?
Mar 15, 2008 02:27
BBQQ Points: Join Date: Feb 7, 2007 Status: offline	If you get married, how will you deal with your personal property, to share with him/her or go dutch with earch other? Don't hesitate to give your answer. Let's read the news first. Beibei is a very independent girl. After six years' hard work, she earned her own house in Hainan at the end of 1998. Then she decided to find her Mr Right to get married because she was already 30 year old. Luckily, she found her Mr Right and decided to get married. Before marriage, they had reached an agreement---going dutch with each other after marriage. According to their agreement, both should take 1000 yuan out every month to deal with daily affairs. If they have "personal affairs", they should pay the bill on their own. When her husband's mother was in hospital, her husband afforded all the expense. She didn't give a cent. At that time, the problem was emerging. Several months later, she was pregnant. She found that their 'public funds' couldn't meet their expense. However, she didn't tell her husband that she had saved about 140,000 yuan at bank. Later on, she found that her husband went out every night and came back very late. Then she suspected that her husband has another woman outside and quarreled with her husband. They even separated. But she was wrong. Her husband had a part-time job after work to earn money because his mom was in hospital again. Finally, she realized that it was her husband's last dignity and she shouldn't expose this little secret. At the end of that year, their daughter was born. Then she gave her bank deposit to her husband and asked him to buy a car. What's more, she told him that their agreement was abolished because she lost her job now and had to take care of their daughter. Quote from the author of the news: Beibei and her husband can go dutch on money. How about their feeling, love and daughter? What do you think of going dutch after marriage? When getting married, will you practice it?

Mar 15, 2008 02:27

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If you get married, how will you deal with your personal property, to share with him/her or go dutch with earch other? Don't hesitate to give your answer. Let's read the news first.

Beibei is a very independent girl. After six years' hard work, she earned her own house in Hainan at the end of 1998. Then she decided to find her Mr Right to get married because she was already 30 year old. Luckily, she found her Mr Right and decided to get married. Before marriage, they had reached an agreement---going dutch with each other after marriage. According to their agreement, both should take 1000 yuan out every month to deal with daily affairs. If they have "personal affairs", they should pay the bill on their own. When her husband's mother was in hospital, her husband afforded all the expense. She didn't give a cent. At that time, the problem was emerging.

Several months later, she was pregnant. She found that their 'public funds' couldn't meet their expense. However, she didn't tell her husband that she had saved about 140,000 yuan at bank. Later on, she found that her husband went out every night and came back very late. Then she suspected that her husband has another woman outside and quarreled with her husband. They even separated. But she was wrong. Her husband had a part-time job after work to earn money because his mom was in hospital again. Finally, she realized that it was her husband's last dignity and she shouldn't expose this little secret.

At the end of that year, their daughter was born. Then she gave her bank deposit to her husband and asked him to buy a car. What's more, she told him that their agreement was abolished because she lost her job now and had to take care of their daughter.

Quote from the author of the news: Beibei and her husband can go dutch on money. How about their feeling, love and daughter?

What do you think of going dutch after marriage? When getting married, will you practice it?

Mar 15, 2008 11:44	#1
GRIZ326 Points: Join Date: Jun 12, 2006 Status: Offline	The young woman appears selfish. She wants a pre-nup, keeps her money separate and squirrels away money without telling her husband.... Her husband should run and hide.

Mar 15, 2008 20:42	#2
DODGER Points: Join Date: Jul 15, 2007 Status: Offline	Sound like this Woman wanted 2 bob each way. But what I cant understand is why didnt her husband explain that he needed to take a second job. Open communication leads to better understanding. Dodger.

Mar 15, 2008 23:04

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The woman isn’t really interested in ‘being married’. She just got married because ‘she is getting old.’ Society dictates that a woman should already be married at that age.

Marriage means sharing. Marriage means your life is not just yours anymore. This is why marriage shouldn’t be entered to just for superficial reasons.

Depending on your location (country or state), what you possess or saved before marriage is considered yours, unless you two have a pre-nuptial agreement. The same applies to the other party. Once you’re married, everything that you’ve accumulated while married, whether assets or liabilities will be shared and during divorce, equally divided.

Mar 17, 2008 02:45

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"But what I cant understand is why didnt her husband explain that he needed to take a second job."

Dodger, he wants to keep his dignity. Since he was refused by his wife once, he would seldom be humiliated by her. He would rather take a second job than ask for help from his wife. Forget to say, the husband earns less money than the girl before they got married. He earns less than 2000 yuan per month. However, the girl earns 5000 to 6000 yuan.

"The woman isn’t really interested in ‘being married’. She just got married because ‘she is getting old.’ Society dictates that a woman should already be married at that age. "

Agree, SHE. You hit the nail on the head. Luckily, she realized that she was wrong and corrected her mistake finally.

Mar 19, 2008 20:12

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I think it is understandable that the woman wants to go dutch with her husband. You see, she has spent six years to earn her house and 140,000 yuan bank savings. If you were her, would you let another man take half of your property? On the other hand, it is the first time that she got married. She has to learn a lot of things through her marriage. Luckily, she has learned something very important. Love means sharing, sharing whatever you have with your partner.

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