| Do you have family values? | |
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| Mar 19, 2008 04:05 |   |
 | As a popular Chinese saying goes, being a good man is the hardest thing. If you stay at home, your wife will say that you are a worthless wretch. If you work outside all day, your wife will say that you are a workaholic and have no family values. Wait, do you have family values? What are family values? Anyone here would like to share your understanding of family values? In some women's eyes, those who have family values must share housework, come back home on time etc. To my understanding, these hen-pecked husbands do have strong family values because they can meet all requirements mentioned above. Do you agree? |
| Mar 19, 2008 13:22 | #1 |
| I am a workaholic and have family values. Is that possible? Why not? If a woman takes a man to her husband knowing he is a workaholic, what´s the point to say afterwards he has no family values? There is more about values than that, I think. What if husband plays with kids after coming home from work, same time as wife is in kitchen cooking? Husband have no values, because he is not hoovering or cooking with his wife? If he fixes car, if cuts grass, if, if, if..... Kev, I must say I have no understanding for family values. I mean what they really are? Who defines them? I don´t know... I don´t... I... Carlos |
| Mar 19, 2008 20:06 | #2 |
| Carlos, I guess that the wife was in bad mood and she needed to let bad feelings out. Thus, she took her husband as the "punching bag". It is no big deal. |
| Mar 19, 2008 23:06 | #3 |
| Don’t run after the crow, check your ears. |
| Mar 19, 2008 23:23 | #4 |
| Family values would mean (be) different things in different cultures, and all for the good, I hope. |
| Mar 19, 2008 23:31 | #5 |
| Which is why religion (in whatever form or fashion) is so strong. |
| Mar 20, 2008 20:51 | #6 |
| The definition of a ‘good man’ is subjective. Women have different views on what a good man is. Some women want their husbands at home at a given time while others do not mind if their husbands work all day. It doesn't make sense for her to marry a workaholic if she doesn’t want a workaholic and then complain that he is a workaholic. No amount of nagging will change him later. |
| Mar 20, 2008 22:11 | #7 |
| Wait, this thread has been out of its track. What is the relationship between family values and "good men"? Kevin, it is also hard to be a good woman. After marriage, we have to take care of our husbands, chidlren and our parents in law. You see, it is very hard to deal with parents in law. No matter what we do, they are still dissatisfied with us. |
| Mar 20, 2008 22:23 | #8 |
| BBQQ--- Are you stressing the fact that family values are shared equally (or the responsibility) of both the husband and wife rather than stressing just the (good mans)husband's role? |
| Mar 21, 2008 22:08 | #9 |
| Both, Gary. Not only the husband but also the wife should play their role very well. For family values, both should have a full understanding of them. Thus, their famly can be happy and harmonious. |
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