| Why do overseas Chinese men seldom marry western women? | |
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| Aug 3, 2008 18:34 | #61   |
| GUEST67149 | Why would anyone in their right mind marry a women from the US or Canada? Men should absolutely, unequivocally say no to marriage given the raping they get in the family court. The truth is that more than 67% (no, not 50% - do your homework) of marriages will end in divorce. 92% of the time it will be initiated by the woman for no other reason than she is “unfulfilled” – oh, and because she gets the kids, the house, at least ½ the assets and most of his future after tax income for the next 18 years. The man will get raked over in family court. He will lose the house and his kids. He will see his kids 2 out of 14 days (if the ex doesn’t level unsubstantiated “abuse” claims.) He will be forced to hand over 40-50% of his take-home pay. If he loses his job due to illness or downsizing, the State will toss him in jail. While jailed the arrearage will grow and the state will charge interest. The State will revoke his driver’s and professional licenses, make him virtually unemployable. If you were to take up sky-diving, and the instructor informed you that 67% of the parachutes were defective, would you take the plunge? You’re a fool if you marry or have a child out of wedlock with a typical Western woman. Check the statistics–at least 70% of divorces are initiated by women. Typically, women press hard for marriage, then bail out with the kids and assets only to hook up with another dummy. Don’t fall for it. Divorce preparation for women is a whole industry. Don’t believe me? Check this out: http://www.divorcedefense.com/ In places like Canada you shack up with a single mom for even a year you get dinged for Child support and she can get support from more than one man at the same time, then she can move on to the next victim. Do not marry single moms for that reason. Solution: Don’t get married. There’s no valid reason for it any more. But if you insist on getting married, find a women that actually grew up in a culture that hasn’t been poisoned by feminism. That eliminates the US, Canada, Australia, NZ, Japan, Europe including Scandinavia, and most of Asia. Potentially good places to find a traditional women are Mexico, Latin America, and certain sections of Southeast Asia such as Vietnam, Thailand, and the Phillipines. Good luck! The men’s Marriage Strike is alive and well, thank you. |
| Aug 3, 2008 21:46 | #62 |
 | Quote: "Which is a predisposition even amongst Chinese men. But the idea for the most part is inconceivable to the American man. Who come to China in search of the nonthreatening subservient wife that American media has portrayed." Guest, American media portrayed Chinese women as "nonthreatening subservient housewife"? That was stereotype. I hope more American men can come to China to see in their own eyes what Chinese women are like nowadays. Chinese women have the head on their shoulders!! GUEST67149 "The men’s Marriage Strike is alive and well." You are an advocate of Men's Marriage Strike. My friend currently lives in USA told me that a group of American men who are wounded by their American women prefer marriage strike. |
| Aug 8, 2008 11:14 | #63 |
| GUEST75233 | majority of men don't mind short term relationship with white women. we men are more into the sexy and healthy body of the woman than her intelligence and her money. white women are more attractive to men of all races because their bodies are curvier and they are more open to sex. the reason white men marry chinese women is because chinese women are very loyal and submissive to their men. |
| Aug 10, 2008 16:00 | #64 |
| GUEST15522 | When there's LOTS of money involved Western women will jump at whomever it is, be he black, yellow, green or even purple. Today's women are only interested in money. The thought being that as long as they can purchase anything they want they will be happy. There are exceptions to the rule but finding a good woman is like finding a needle in a haystack. I'm one of the lucky one's who did find the needle in a haystack [Beijing is one hellva a haystack] |
| Aug 10, 2008 22:42 | #65 |
| Quote: //Today's women are only interested in money. The thought being that as long as they can purchase anything they want they will be happy. There are exceptions to the rule but finding a good woman is like finding a needle in a haystack.// GUEST15522, you are putting all women in the same basket. You said that "women are ONLY interested in money. " We must be careful in choosing the word "ONLY". Who told you that all women are mercenary? Both today's women and men love money. Don't you prefer being rich? Women love money because we can use money to buy the pretty coutures and fashion accessories. Anything wrong? I bet that all men love money too. Without money, can you buy your favorite autos, wine and cigarettes? Everyone is entitled to make a better life. "Finding a good woman is like finding a needle in a haystack." Today, a good man is even more difficult to find than a good woman! A bunch of men keep mistressess and have extramarital affairs while their wives are sacrifing a lot to take care of their children and families. Men are more unfaithful than women in a marriage. |
| Aug 10, 2008 23:36 | #66 |
| Inter-marriages with Caucasian women are far and few because Westerners GENERALLY find Chinese men physically unattractive. They seldom marry because Western women want good-looking boyfriends/husbands and this is hard to find in the Chinese race. Besides this of course, this is cultural differences - the Western women expects the Chinese to understand them but will attempt little to understand Chinese culture. |
| Aug 10, 2008 23:36 | #67 |
| Inter-marriages with Caucasian women are far and few because Westerners GENERALLY find Chinese men physically unattractive. They seldom marry because Western women want good-looking boyfriends/husbands and this is hard to find in the Chinese race. Besides this of course, this is cultural differences - the Western women expects the Chinese to understand them but will attempt little to understand Chinese culture. |
| Aug 10, 2008 23:47 | #68 |
| I find that a huge majority of Caucasian men who prefer/marry Asian-types are those who have not made something of themselves back in their own native countries. They generally lacking behind their better educated citizens back home, do not possess stable jobs, have no reliable source of income, and generally fell out of society. Asian women fall prey to this type of Caucasian man... and there are plenty wandering in the Far East. Strangely, most of them are from English-speaking western countries such as America, Britain and Australia. |
| Aug 10, 2008 23:47 | #69 |
| I find that a huge majority of Caucasian men who prefer/marry Asian-types are those who have not made something of themselves back in their own native countries. They generally lacking behind their better educated citizens back home, do not possess stable jobs, have no reliable source of income, and generally fell out of society. Asian women fall prey to this type of Caucasian man... and there are plenty wandering in the Far East. Strangely, most of them are from English-speaking western countries such as America, Britain and Australia. |
| Aug 12, 2008 13:46 | #70 |
| My own experience counters the premise of your post. My boyfriend is Chinese, and he says he wants to marry a Western woman the second time around. He says gossip in the Chinese community (of 20,000) is unbearable, and he has divorced himself from complications within the community. I find Asian men to be among the most attractive in the world because of their cultural values and personal attributes. I don't discount American men, but feel put off most of the time by what is often regarded as typical masculine identity here, which feels pushy and arrogant to me. I think that in America during the past two generations, we have really missed the boat in terms of setting priorities for family and education. Since I place a high value on education as an attribute in a potential mate, my boyfriend is a dream come true. We have much in common in our personalities and interests, particularly a curiosity to learn and question. Why don't Asian immigrant men marry white women? Oftentimes, it is the the media that portrays what little information people have about other kinds of people, if they do not come into direct contact with various cultures. It is human nature to try and fill in the missing information with a general impression based on limited knowledge. When I lived in Korea, I had to represent all white people to my young students, who, having never met a white person, expected me to look like someone they saw in the media. In the US, Asian men get had little or no press, except stereotypical images which are very different from the "John Wayne" American image of a male. When I read the posts over the 7 pages written here, I see many people describing their personal experiences, and then trying to generalize from only one valid aspect, thus creating a distorted view. It is embarassing to me, to say to my European friends " Well, yes, I agree with your negative impression of Americans, but you simply can't generalize a whole continent of people who came from many cultures." I am really not sure that many people are willing to leave their own comfort zone and culture in order to comtemplate other ways of thinking, and more complex issues. As long as that is true, there will be white men looking for Asian women because they think they are "subservient", Asian media portraying white people as "barbarians", and American media portraying Asian men as "nerds." But when you meet people who have have made the effort, experienced the culture shock and reverse culture shocks, made relationships with people from many cultures, we all benefit. I hope the discussion on this post continues.. |
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