| Love never subsides into friendship? | |
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| Jul 29, 2008 04:17 |   |
| guestangela | Friendship may, and often and often dose, grow into love, but love never subsides into friendship, says George Gordon Byron. Do you identify with Lord Byron’s words? Personlly, I think so. Hatred is usually arised from passionate love. Strong love leads to too much care. Too much care would ruin the love. In many cases, it was whom you love most hate you most. You want to be friends with her/him. It is only a fantasy! Love never subsides into friendship! |
| Jul 30, 2008 04:34 | #1 |
 | Yea, friends can become lovers, but seldom can lovers become good friends.( Love never subsides into friendship). |
| Jul 30, 2008 23:20 | #2 |
| Ask me in 5 years. |
| Jul 31, 2008 04:39 | #3 |
| Generalizations AGAIN!!! But no, I for myself, don't agree with that. First. I think that before love, there should be a real friendship. Then if love goes away, a relationship can turn into friendship. I have good relations with all my ex-girlfriends and I don't think that there is hate between any of us... It might take more time to some relations than others to get to the friendship level, but time does it. Now if you ask in married couples, that is even easier to answer yes: look around..how many old couples do you see that look just like the best friends ever? Sure there is still love, but definately not the passion that there was once.. So it depends on exactly how you define love turn to friendship.. Not all breakups mean hate: none in my case. |
| Jul 31, 2008 22:34 | #4 |
| Al32, "Then if love goes away, a relationship can turn into friendship. I have good relations with all my ex-girlfriends and I don't think that there is hate between any of us.." One of former classmates broke up with her boyfriend. She said that if two people could be good friends after breakup, it proves that their passion for each other is not deep. Once you are deeply in love with someone, you will tolerate that he/she becomes other's husband/ wife. Love is exclusive. Deep love can not decline into friendship. |
| Jul 31, 2008 23:39 | #5 |
| I understand what you say Sunnydream but at the same time, just like other feelings, love can change and evolve with time. Especially because love involves 2 individuals. When one person in the couple looses the love or passion, what should the other one do? If that person really loves the other one, than he/she might also have to accept to let go his/her love sometime...and again with time, friendship might be back. I'm not saying that it is an easy thing to do, be it's possible eventually. "Love is exclusive"; I don't know!! Maybe that I haven't found THE real love of my life before; that's also why I've never been married. But that doesn't mean that I've never loved with passion. It doesn't mean also that previous breakups always kept me peaceful and friendly..but in the end, I believe that if you really loved, then you should try all your best to keep a friendly relation for the sake and respect of that lost love. And really, past love will always stay hidden somewhere inside your heart..bad memories eventually disappear and good ones are easier to remember. |
| Aug 3, 2008 21:13 | #6 |
| AL32, maybe men claimed them to be magnanimous. They don't mind keeping a friendly relation after breakup. We women take love very seriously. Can any woman tolerate that the one she once loved is displaying affection to someone else? The better way is "no contact after breakup". |
| Aug 26, 2008 12:44 | #7 |
| GUEST13430 | What if you like a guy who wanted more from you but wanted you as a good or best friend? Then you say that you have to love me to get more from me. Then he confess that he wants to be more to you and like you. Is this called lovers and friends? I'm young and still in school. We have sexual desires at times and then at times we just want to be friends. So whats the deal with that? |
| Aug 26, 2008 22:32 | #8 |
| Love and friendship are very different. Love involves in strong passion and the sense of possession. Love needs to be unique. You can fall in love with only one lover at a period(if you are a serious person), but you can maintain good friendships with tens of friends. I agree with the above opinion that friendship can mature into deep love but love nearly fade into friendship. |
| Sep 3, 2008 11:27 | #9 |
| Well its consequential that some feel that there is no love and friendship after the first time in love and a marriage which lasted perhaps for a few decades.Who says that the love is not there,even if divorced,or a death occurred. If there is no real love before the marriage and it was a marriage of convenience then maybe the circumstances may vary. Thus,if there is no real Authority to decree such a judgement of what is really love and not love,and is able to define the terms accurately who can really lay claim to be an Authority on the subject of whom loves whom and who falls out of love,when married for so long.You can always be friends ,and have strong admirations for another person.Those whom openly admire someone is not necessarily always in love.Who decrees that you are in love,and not in love.Perhaps the luster of admiration and convenience wear out after some time together,and all these years are taken and accepted as love,by one person,and not really given by another person,whom felt the responsibility for this persons livelihood.Mistaken identity,in the case of the Genes working overtime,and when getting ill adjusted to their'new fate,of the years ahead,they seek a new relationship.At times people whom love each other,can not live together,and yet they do not search,or cheat with another person. They have an enduring love,and they may have an enduring relation friendship. But then I am not an Authority,just giving an Opinion. Take Care |
| Apr 3, 2012 14:57 | #10 |
| GUEST63253 | i think love never subsides into friendship. If u truly love someone u can't think him/her only a friend. It is impossible to think the person u love only as a friend. |
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