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| Oct 6, 2009 00:02 | #11   |
 | Dear Guest 11113, Speaking as both a clinical psychologist and someone who has married a Chinese woman I would suggest that you DON"T have a make a decision now. Enjoy the moment and, given enough time, you will have enough behavioral evidence of his feelings. If he does go back to China, you can still continue the relationship (our technological age makes that possible). You could entertain the idea of doing some of your postgraduate work in China (even if only for a year). In other words, you don't have to close off the relationship completely, and you don't need to decide what to do right now. Following your goals does not inevitably mean giving up the relationship, or vice versa. Explore your options, and good luck. |
| Oct 23, 2009 04:14 | #12 |
| GUEST34106 | I'm a Chinese man in 30s and I hope I can help you with your dilemma. First,people should be discreet to fall in love,in my opinion,because affection costs time and distracts attention unless you are fortunate enough to have a very smoothly developped romance,which is seldom however. second,since love is almost inevitable experience in life,we have to brave ourselves to face it and learn to make dicisions knowledgably.In your caseI think you'd better tell him directly your dilemma and ask him how to handle these tough problems .Since he arose these problems to you,you can require him to give solutions and,first of all,analyze and prove to you the feasibilities of his perspective.Then,analyze and make judgement on basis of his replies.Of course given your age,I guess,you probably feel it difficult to handle such complicated situations.I know little about him.Generally speaking,in my opinion,if he is very excellent,his promise is more reliable.So you need to make investigations,and then analyze rationally. Last,because I have never got a girlfriend myself:(,my suggestions are just for your referrence.From my personal experience,I largely agree the advice above of rational programimg and following,which involves less risk.But it is subject to you to decide because after all,only you know best about the specific situation you are in. |
| Oct 23, 2009 04:31 | #13 |
| GUEST34106 | Failed to notice the dates of original discussion and wasted my time. |
| Dec 16, 2009 20:04 | #14 |
| GUEST51211 | well, I m a 24 years old Chinese man/boy whatever！！ I lived in California. I had a similar story like yours. I came to the US to study and also tried to make my life in CA. In my first couple years, I focused in my study and everything in my life, somehow a European girl walked in to my life coincidentally。I didn't pay much attention about her in the beginning , I just treated her politely as everyone I met in my life. somehow she had a lot of curious about me. So,we started to talked more and more everyday and became to close friends naturally. She likes all kinds of Asian culture that made me so surprised. Also I felt so touching because she helped me a lot on my English study. So one day when I realized my feeling , it already too late. Because I already liked her so much and got used to stay with her. However, the more we stay together and the more problems also poped out in our life. She likes drink , but I don't like drunk girls. She smokes but also I don't like girls smoking either. Also there were many culture gaps started to showed out. So,, well I have a complicated situation like you too I guess. But I think like some of ppl said here ``this is kinda hard to work out that European girls work out with Chinese guys =) |
| Mar 15, 2010 07:05 | #15 |
| GUEST20322 | GUEST11113, you got facebook? |
| Jul 12, 2010 06:29 | #16 |
| Hello everyone, i am also marriaged to a Chinese man. And I must say, this is the best decision I did in my life :-) I am half Russian and half German my man is pure Chinese. Even lot of people say he looks a lot like Korean haha I do make fun on him because of this, and its annoying him but dont disturb him that much. I am so happy to read, that there are lot of European or American woman who also are marriaged to Chinese man. I dont see often that Western girls are together with Asian guys, in my 2 years in China I just saw few of couple like me and my husband. Yes, the Asian culture is very different than the culture in Western countries thats for sure, but its not a big problem if you really love the person! to the GUEST37105 : You have 3 daughters :-) thats so cute！I cant wait until i can get pregnant. |
| Jul 12, 2010 21:55 | #17 |
| Yanni, you have grabbed the unwonted one from China.  Sure as you said, Love me, love my bird, you will find the great in Chinese Culture. |
| Aug 29, 2011 19:33 | #18 |
| GUEST08669 | i am a 22 yrs old chinese boy ,i live in Poland right now,i met my polish girlfriend at a student's party. our experiences is just like yours :D.she likes japanese culture alot, but i am chinese ,whatever she likes me thats the main point.we've been text eachother everyday,and we miss eachother when we are not together. after all,i met her parents already,ohh!and she met my mum at a airport incoincidently! that's really cool!i think our relationship will last for a long time ,even forever :*,i |
| Jun 22, 2013 20:24 | #19 |
| GUESTGUEST 1... | so, what is the story now, i'd love to hear |
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