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My Chinese gf pushes me to get married!
Sep 18, 2012 13:33
guestHugh Hi guys, I've been to China more than 2 years.I've a Chinese gf.She is nice and kind but she pushes me to get married with her so hard.We love each other but on the other hand i also want my freedom.What do i need to do?I also don't want to run away.She is already part of my life.I still think about my future.Leave her or not?I can't make decision easily!
Sep 18, 2012 19:40
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GUEST19571 Personally, I'm in the same boat, but I'm not as undecided. I'm going to go for it. As for you, you can't have your cake and eat it too, because one day she's going to come to the unhappy realization that you're stringing her along, and you'll never hear from her again. So you have to ask yourself that all-important question: which do you value more- your freedom or her?
Sep 18, 2012 21:01
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GUESTHUGH,

I think you do not understand Chinese girls thoroughly. Once a girl loves a boy, she is willing to marry him and give birth to children for him. If you refuse to get married with her, she might think that you do not love her and don’t take the relationship seriously. Marriage is the final goal when they have a relationship with boys.

Here is the situation in China: It doesn’t matter whether the boys get married early or late. But girls are different. Young girls are favored by men while older girls or women are not popular and favored by Chinese men. That’s why many girls who are over thirties are still single.
Sep 21, 2012 22:54
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Originally Posted by GUESTHUGH

We love each other but on the other hand i also want my freedom.What do i need to do?I also don't want to run away.She is already part of my life.I still think about my future.Leave her or not?I can't make decision easily!


So, you will never get married if you think like this. Chinese do value marriage other than love.
Sep 22, 2012 21:56
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GUEST17115 Here's the deal: When getting married you lose a few things and hopefully gain other things.
The key is not to be so selfish and start thinking as "we". If you think getting married is a trauma, wait for when the baby arrives.

on the other hand...you can choose to remain single !
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