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Once you marry a Chinese woman, it is tantamount to marrying her entire family.
May 2, 2018 02:31
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GUESTMARTIN I've been in a 3 year relationship with a PRC lady that I met in Singapore. We are both Masters educated professionals working in Singapore. She is now keen on marrying and starting a family thru IVF as she is 38. She has told me all we need to do is visit the Chinese Embassy to recognize the marriage. She knows I have properties in Australia and am thinking should I arrange a prenuptial before we marry?
May 14, 2018 20:05
#202  
GUEST51652 YES!
May 16, 2018 20:37
#203  
GUESTLIGONG I wish I would have read all these stories earlier...
After 8 years marriage and living in China the only thing I can say is that ... NIGHTMARE.
There is no age gap, both speak English,both young, following the 'chinese @## plans'...it DOESN'T WORK! Maybe you will be luckier than me but if I knew earlier I WOULD HAVE STAYED AWAY.
May 28, 2018 14:26
#204  
GUEST20226 Well,i don't like stereotypes, any woman of any nationality can destroy a man but Chinese have some commons,very specific patterns: meet their mom, get married, buy apartment, have kid(s). Then it's time for them to change face and unfold their inner talent: manipulation.
Then you realize you are in troubles!
Jun 13, 2018 22:39
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I’m going on my 2nd year with a beautiful woman fron Hunan. Challenges, of course as we have 2 cultures we are bringing together. Are we happy? Yes we are!

Do you marry the family, yes you do. If you’re a man you need to be a man. Adapt, but also set boundaries. Remember they are also marrying you. In a Chinese home everyone works together in support of the family, so that’s a plus. But also don’t forget you marry a Chinese woman to bring her into your family. That’s what happens in China. You’re not a woman going into her family.

My family loves my wife. They spend way too much time laughing together and they always ask about her and talk to her. One family member doesn’t like my wife, but that woman has the new western female values and her husband is miserable.

So my wife has 4 friends. One is married, good woman and her husband is chill. I learn a lot watching him with his wife. Just be chill and don’t sweat the small stuff. 2 of her friends, while attractive, love to gamble and spend too much time in the casinos. One of them is not an honest woman. The 4th is unmarried, quiet, and sweet. My wife is a strong Chinese woman with good character. They all have a good work ethic.

Now imagine you met one of them. Which one did you meet and marry? Which of them is the real Chinese woman? The answer to the second question is they all are Chinese women. Which you picked to marry is up to you. YOU have to get to know each person and know who you are truly meeting BEFORE you date and marry her. That part is no different than wherever you are from, but chances are good that she has some good traditional values. So don’t blame the country or the people if you don’t put the time in to really know the person you may marry. Take the time to pick the right one. Don’t rush to marry the first Chinese woman who smiles at you, as there are billions of them.

Myself I’d have it no other way in regards to where I would find a wife. I prefer the asian cultures over the western culture in many respects. I’m not offended by a man being a man and a woman being a woman with mutual respect and none of the psychobabble being preached these days on western non-civilizations. My wife treats me like a king and she’s my queen.
Jun 26, 2018 17:17
#206  
GUESTSAMEGUEST It sounds so romantic. Cool! I am eager to read your experience after five years, counting from now on, I will check back this website again. If you d like to share with us.cheers
Jun 28, 2018 12:52
#207  
GUESTSTRANGERS Hey guys, very interesting information can be found here. Based on my own experience (after teaching in schools for many years and having friends who are also married Chinese), when you are going to find your love in China the chances are very slim because there are billions of them(girls) out there.
It's more likely that someone will find either a dishonest (bbb) one, a psychopath/sociopath one, or one in abnormal mental state(s).Unfortunately ,the living conditions ,environment, noise, air, family/relationships problems are important factors that...but what I want to say is,just be careful guys don't end up hitting your heads hard on the walls. My opinion is: Cohabitation(not just date) for around two years is a MUST before going deep sea fishing... otherwise be suspicious if she is kinda in a hurry.
Sincerely,
Sep 17, 2018 03:35
#208  
GUEST04160 Sounds like my chinese wife,all the same
Oct 10, 2018 08:11
#209  
GUEST79135 The things can be even worse if you have kids. Once had a new baby every annoying neighbor moved to next ;renovations started ,power tools,dust, people smoking, screaming and slamming doors on hallways and lifts.I really regret every choice I made in my life. I had to move out from the apartment the company r renting for me, moved to suburbs.however,there is one thing can't avoid no matter where you go:the noise.either from machines,old trucks etc.or from people who are talking loud, screaming, yelling.
But hey guys,my wife seems doesn't understand any of these things,or she feels can't do anything about?i dunno
Nov 7, 2018 07:55
#210  
GUEST45125 Brilliant thread here. I married a Filippina, not a Chinese lady. After reading through a lot of these threads, I have a few comments.
-Marriage can be a lottery, you don't' know who you're going to get. They may change after the wedding, especially after children. Be prepared for this. Not just Asian women but everyone.
-If you are putting everything on your partner to make the marriage, check yourself. What are you bringing to it?
-When you marry someone, make sure you can handle any shortcomings or baggage they have, so spend time on this. "Marry in haste, regret at leisure"
-Unrealistic expectations can only lead to disappointment. Never assume anything. It's not going to be perfect all the time.
-The home is the Women's domain the world over, not just Chinese.
-Don't forget that marriage is supposed to mean spending the rest of your life with that one person.
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