| Why do overseas Chinese men seldom marry western women? | |
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| Mar 12, 2009 16:03 | #121   |
 | Quote:Originally Posted by GUEST10129 GUEST10129, I have something I want to ask you please reply to this email yahoo.com|worldx84. |
| Mar 16, 2009 04:41 | #122 |
| GUEST5648 | Chinese men do not like dating western women because western women are too proud of themselves. Even a great number of western men don't like their own countries' women. In my eyes, asian guys are more considerate, caring and gentle than western men. |
| Mar 20, 2009 03:59 | #123 |
| GUEST80151 | I am a Canadian woman married to Chinese man. He is the most attentive loving loyal honorable man I've ever met. Western women are not "poisoned" by feminism. The family model has shifted and it takes time to adjust and create new standards different from those that have been the norm for 100's of years. Women are experiencing more choices than ever before. And as far as Chinese race not having good looks gimme a break! Who's brainwashed to believe that crap! If someone can state an entire race is not attractive I suggest getting educated. Take an Anthropology or Social Science course and open your mind. I will forever be loyal to my husband as he has taught me an invaluable way of living different than any Western man could have. My husband chose me because I am adventurous and free spirited we live an exciting life together. All Asian women are not submissive either. They are just as strong and diverse as Western women but in unique ways recognized in their own culture. Chinese culture includes valuing family and community over individualism and they express their passion and energy in different more subtle ways that are dynamic and stunning. Before commenting get educated! |
| Mar 29, 2009 03:58 | #124 |
| GUEST31123 | I think most people feel shy to tell the real reason here. There is only one reason. For those who do not marry Western women, they have their own old culture in mind. It is not "obeying or respecting their ancestors" if they marry non-Chinese women. But, for those who did marry those women, either they were not taught about this culture in their own family or they do not remember this any more after living in the Western world for some time. Money is not a role here for this topic. There are so many Western women who have poor or tough life with men from other ethnic groups. Money as you can see is not a matter here. |
| Mar 30, 2009 01:47 | #125 |
| GUEST73679 | I have a strong attraction to a Chinese man. He has been courting me for a few months now despite that we currently live in different states. He is very traditional and has expressed that he would like to date me but is fearful of intercultural differences and his family's reaction (they are still in China). I have never thought of dating an asian man before and have been trying to do research as to cultural differences and beliefs. I have been raised to be very independent and self-sufficient, I know that there would be a very strong need for communication and understanding in order to consider dating. However, we have not gotten to the point of discussing our pasts or in my case sexuality. I know that traditional Chinese do not look well upon homosexuality but I was wondering if that is the same for bisexuality. In the last 5 years I have dated mostly women and am wondering what kind of issues to expect from this. Is there shame associated with that? I obviously would not date anyone who is not comfortable with my sexuality but am wondering how that could affect the family dynamic. I know that he is still very close with his family and needs their approval. I have reservations about what kind of expectations there are on my end. While I love to do traditional female things I am also very career oriented. I know that it will have to be discussed between us but I was wondering if anyone had an idea of what I should expect as a reaction. |
| Mar 30, 2009 04:15 | #126 |
| Guest73679, Forgive me. I’m a little slow. Are you suggesting that if you were to have a relationship with this man, Chinese or otherwise, you would still want to be able to have a girlfriend on the side? Dodger. |
| Apr 2, 2009 14:19 | #127 |
| GUESTGYPSY SOUL | LEON8ME: You have interesting opinions that seem very colored by an unfortunate personal life. No doubt the sweeping statements you have made about most of not all western, white women reflect a certain small mindedness speaks more on your frame of thought and ideals than about the women you are abasing here. I also believe that some of your comments lead me to believe that you have no actually traveled and lived in Asia and just like with white women you have categorized it in your own head rather than see it for what it is. Going to China, hit any large city and you may be dismayed to see that brand names are the de rigeur and people are just as pop culture centered as any in North America. I am a white American woman with a Ph. D, in Anthropology. I taught in China and S. Korea and am dating a lovely... wonderful, refreshing, amazingly sweet and funny man from Taiwan. He and "we" shatter most of misinformed the crap I've been reading on bulletins like these... |
| Apr 2, 2009 23:55 | #128 |
| GUEST25250 | Cultural gap between Easterners and Westerners. |
| Apr 7, 2009 04:33 | #129 |
| GUEST14587 | Hello girl, I am very sorry about your situation. I am a Chinese guy. I have been living in Europe for 5 years. I want to say something about your case. I can say there is certain amount of Chinese guy they get marry because the green card. But, not all like that. Before they reveal his mask. Before you decide that you are going to spend the rest of your life with him, You should really think it over. It is not just he is nice guy or he is sweet. You should think about that you guys are really suit or cope with each other. I mean the charater of the person. Not only think his nationality or his background. You marry him, is not about you marrige China or Chinese culture. People charater are different, even they come from the same background. You can say they have some commen, like Chinese guy tend to be more shy, more close-mind, or their body are smaller than westen guy. Because, Asian culture like that. If the person is not speaking English. It will give the totally different outlook of the world...... Gerarally speaking, China is huge. The people who living in the North seems to be more Chinese. Their Chines culture are more strong and deep. However, Chinese people from HongKong, Marco and GuangDong seems more open-mind and more westen. I hope you'll find your truth love in the future. Have a nice day! |
| Apr 7, 2009 20:28 | #130 |
| GUEST04410 | Ok, let me first introduce myself, I’m a Chinese American, immigrated to this proud land with my parents 13 years ago. I hold a bachelor’s degree in business finance and a MBA degree in information systems and operation management. I own a distribution business that deals in car audio, video equipments and performance parts. In my line of work I constantly travel to Asian countries (mainly Japan, Taiwan and China) to seek new products and attend car shows. Whenever I see white or black with his or her Asian partner. IT MAKES ME SICK TO MY STOMACH. And these babies they produce, oh man don’t even get me started on this (where’s my Glock). Don’t get me wrong I have nothing against other races. But come on if you have to have an interracial relationship or marriage (especially in Asian countries). Please do us a favor, STAY……..HOME, keep it on the down low, don’t go to bars or clubs, have somebody do your shopping for you. Here you are wasting your time comparing Asian men with white, white women with Chinese women. Don’t you get it? There is no comparison. Do the humanity a favor, stick to your own kind. The sorry SOB who started this thread needs to be shot. |
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