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Why do overseas Chinese men seldom marry western women?
Jun 9, 2009 23:52
#161  
GUEST75246 I married to a white girl, we love each other! Culture shock ? you bet ! But that's exactly we are looking for. It makes life interesting. I can marry to a Chinese woman, well, someone like my mom ?... That doesn't sound too exciting for me, I can see what happens 10 years down the rows if I marry to an Asian girl. I love white girls, they are elegant and softhearted, shy as well if you know them more,
I know Americans can travel to many countries without visas (just passport), but most Americans I met here never leave the country, some even never lead their own state. I met my wife in Australia. We both love traveling and experience different cultures. It works out great for us!
Jun 18, 2009 00:46
#162  
GUEST12277 east asian guys who lives in the west and have never even dated one white girl, should be ashamed of themselves. there are no excuses whatsoever.
Jun 23, 2009 01:13
#163  
GUEST05102 american women are the problem. they are abusive, disrepectful and have no couth. in general. not 100 percent.
Jun 23, 2009 06:22
#164  
Perhaps that is true in some cases, but it certainly isn't the norm, in any culture. From my experience, I believe Chinese expats in the U.S. prefer the traditional Chinese male-female relationship, where the male is "in charge," so to speak. A friend of mine married a gentlemen 30+ years her senior. Her husband has been in the U.S. for 20 or more years, and had two previous marriages (unfortunately, very American!) - all to Chinese-born ladies. He apparently made a few trips back to China after wife number 2 to find wife number 3 (my friend). Even though she is somewhat of a free spirit, as we say, and certainly not inhibited, she still defers to her husband in almost every situation.

Now that I mention it, I have a distinct interest in hearing other people's thoughts on why on some occasions, young Chinese women marry much older men. Perhaps to get the opportunity to come to the U.S. or some other western country? I guess that I should start a new topic, however. :-)

Cheers!

AIB
Jun 30, 2009 10:17
#165  
GUEST15442 I think it is rather ridiculous to generalize western women as bitchy and masculine and asian women as feminine and submissive. Not only are these stereotypes not true, but they really undercut the value of the individual and make it obvious that you are seeing people through the lense of bias and not paying attention to their actual personality. I am a western woman and have dated men of all races, and I have not found, for example, that asian men are less masculine than western men, like people tend to comment.

In terms of latinas, I am latina and I don't find them to be more emotionally or physically feminine than american women. They do put more care and attention into their clothes/appearance, which is actually just a cultural thing in general - the men take more care of their appearance as well and tend to be more stylish than americans. But this has more to do with cultural pressure on presentation/looks than it does with femininity. American women are just as feminine, and I don't see why they wouldn't be nurturing/motherly just like any other woman.

But in any case, I can guarantee you that even though people of some cultures (asian women for example) may initially be shy/submissive, eventually once you marry and know them well they will be anything but. So take care not to make such bigoted assumptions because you really cannot make any assumptions about anyone's real personality by just watching their initial behavior. Westernern women tend to be more direct and forceful yes, not because of the "feminist movement", but rather because all westerners tend to be more direct and forceful. This says nothing about their capacity for nurturing and love, but is rather just the way we've been raised and taught to behave. Personally, I see nothing wrong with western behavior in itself - there is nothing wrong with being direct, sociable - outward oriented - unless it is taken to an extreme.
Jun 30, 2009 22:48
#166  
GUEST64072 I am also disgusted about the fact that Japanese males often buy sex thus having had sexual experience with prostitutes. When I was teaching English in Japan as a JET instructor, I have learned that Japanese men find this practice of paying for sex normal. I therefore am very cautious when it comes to dating Japanese men.
Jul 9, 2009 09:03
#167  
GUEST92059 I want to know the result can a chiese man married with white women happen
Jul 11, 2009 23:06
#168  
GUEST33140 In Asian cultures, family is very important. If an Asian male marries a Western woman, there will be a language-barrier between the woman and the rest of the family, limiting her interaction with them.
Jul 12, 2009 13:55
#169  
GUEST17685 Wow...some of you guys are ignorant dumbasses from reading your comments.

Hopefully I'll never run into the likes of your kind in real life.
Jul 13, 2009 11:47
#170  
GUESTBIG D here are some facts people. Chinese guys are ugly, uncivilized, pan-head clones that act like jungle monkeys. They have stick-boy bodies and toothpick dicks so naturally women find them repulsive...

I have lived in China for four years and not by choice, work...
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