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Why do overseas Chinese men seldom marry western women?
Aug 13, 2009 02:35
#181  
GUEST29217 I dated white women all the time. In fact, I even married one. And I'm not even first generation, but Chinese born. I think the problem is not that western (in this case American) women are not attracted to Chinese, but many Chinese men are afraid to ask them out. In fact, one of my ex used to complain about Chinese guys not asking her out. Secondly, I think education and income also play a major role. My wife and I are very well educated. She has a PhD in clinical psychology, and my MBA is from a university that is ranked top 1% in the US. It also made my relationship with her parents much smoother.
Aug 13, 2009 03:01
#182  
GUEST29217
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Originally Posted by GUEST10035 View Post

Until I read Guest 04410's post of April 7, I did not think there were many virulent Chinese racists. He is the first of his kind wanting to commit genocide on helpless babies. Having said that most white women would not date Asians or any non-white for that matter because they are racists and in most cases more racist than white men. This is part...


Hey! I dated a blond from Texas, what do you have to say about that uh??? I admit is hard, since many of them are racist, but not impossible.
Aug 15, 2009 03:20
#183  
GUESTROBOT CAT "All of Asia worships whites."
Wow, you are hilariously uninformed. You talk like you're a fat cat businessman on the Forbes 500, but until you've got the credentials, keep your dreamy generalizations to yourself. I won't deny there are western influences in Asia, but you can't deny there are Asian influences in the west.

"Chinese guys are ugly, uncivilized..."
Based on your hate-filled tirade, I would assume you are not getting any, and are jealous that the people around you are. What is any? Not necessarily men, or women, but there's something these Chinese guys have that you don't that makes you jealously obsessive. Obviously your hate means you can't interact well with these people you are working with, and it is a total wonder to me that your business employed you! It's the recession...have you been fired yet?

Feels so good to get that off my chest. Defend yourselves if you dare, gentlemen.
Aug 15, 2009 20:22
#184  
GUEST29217 You tell then GUESTROB!!! Multi culture rules, and if they don't like it, too bad!!!! The world is becoming more integrated, and nobody can stop progress from continuing YEAH!!!
Aug 16, 2009 00:45
#185  
GUEST56212 Thanks!
I guess I was quite rude, because I was caught up in my own passion of the moment.
But I totally agree with what you said, GUEST29217.
Aug 16, 2009 09:54
#186  
GUEST63154 Good for you! While most white American women are racists (the exception being Hawaii), there are white women who will be willing to give Asian guys a chance but the Asian guys are afraid to ask them out. These Asian guys, even those born in places such as Singapore are well read and know a lot more about white racism than they are letting on. Many are afraid of dating white women because eventually they will return to the US and have to live among racist neighbors and family members who dont approve of IR. This is especially so in the US South! There was this guy from Singapore who was dating an expat from a redneck town of Dawsonville, GA. Needless to say that he had never been to the US. But, Asian visitors from the US convinced him that if they got married they will have to stay in Singapore and raise family there and he could not return to Georgia or visit the racist northern Georgia with her if he loved his life. They broke up because she wanted to go back home! Also after she was initially asked out by this guy, other white expat men in Singapore would not date her as she was dating a non-white..and these guys themselves were dating non-whites.
Aug 16, 2009 09:57
#187  
GUEST63154 They are afraid to ask white women out because they eventually have to visit the white woman's family or move into a neighborhood in her country full of racists. If she is willing to live and work in place such as Singapore or Hong Kong and not return home much it is a different story. A white South African woman married to a Chinese in Singapore for fifteen years never visited her family with her millionaire husband or children. To this day they think that she is unmarried..and yes they are pretty racist and belong to extreme right wing organizations.
Aug 19, 2009 04:28
#188  
GUEST5927 The prominent cultural barrier for the marriage between Chinese men and western women (American women) remains the attitude on “face issue”. Chinese men (even all Chinese) are afraid of losing faces. I had an American friend who married a Chinese man. She said her Chinese husband was never unwilling to say sorry to her when they had disputes and quarrels, even it was apparently her Chinese husband’ s fault. She was quite unhappy about it. She said it was very important to learn to say sorry in American culture, but she found that her Chinese husband is just very poor at apologizing or very reluctant to say sorry. In most of times, her husband chose to keep silence after they had quarrels. She said that their marriage would be easier and happier if her Chinese husband can learn to say sorry.
Aug 20, 2009 01:19
#189  
GUEST29217 You're confusing sex issue with cultural issue. Most men do not like to apologize or ask for help or direction. It has nothing to do with face.
Aug 20, 2009 01:21
#190  
GUEST29217 Hey, if you don't fight for the woman you love, you loose her to somebody else. Unfair? That is life!!!
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