| Why do overseas Chinese men seldom marry western women? | |
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| Aug 23, 2009 09:45 | #191   |
| GUEST13651 | And I have fallen in love with a chinese boy younger than me! I found him so kind and supportive, cute and sexy! |
| Aug 27, 2009 03:16 | #192 |
| GUEST43178 | I am a chinese boy.Actually, Chinese according to the Confucianism. We are conventional. China got long long history. But New China was built on 1949. We just open to the world in the few years. Foreigner are still strange for Chinese people. Losts of Chinese people never seen Foreigner before. But if we are uncivilized,it depends on country's ambience. depends on different people.But I believe most chinses people are friendly and veracity. If anyone wanna understand more about china. or wanna have a trip in China. You may mail me, hotmail.com|sunpower55 I'll show you We are friendly and let you know here also can be your family. |
| Sep 1, 2009 18:28 | #193 |
| GUEST10034 | Guest 1035 is right. Here is some evidence. One white American woman says that she will not date anyone who is non-white, and there are tons of white American women writing to support her.... http://www.washingtonpost.com/ Most of these white American women are racists when it comes to dating and marriage! |
| Sep 4, 2009 17:24 | #194 |
| GUEST33247 | I learned a very important lesson when I was young and doing sales. The more people you talk to, the more sales you'll make. Dating is the same thing, if a girl doesn't talk to me or doesn't like me, I move on. Eventually somebody will. I never take it personal. This is the main reason I never had a problem dating white girls. For other Asian guys out there who are afraid to ask white women out, my advice to you is don't be!!! You have nothing to loose by talking to them, and everything to loose by keeping quiet. In this case, fear is your worst enemy. And don't take it personal nor get discourage if she says no. Remember the rules of the number: the more girls you talk to, the easier is to find a date! Try it and you'll be surprise how many cute white girls will say yes!!!!! |
| Sep 8, 2009 00:09 | #195 |
| GUEST29677 | I am a Chinese guy from Hong Kong living in Southern California. There's never been a problem with me dating white women here. Eventaully I married one and we have a cute Hapa. True, many White women have never been asked out by Asian guys but many have no problems dating and getting into serious relations with one if the opportunity arose. When I first came to the US in the 80's most IR couples were while guys and Asian gals but now there are many Asian men and White women couples, at least where I live. Goodluck to all. The world is getting smaller and hopefully in the future it'll be just one race. |
| Sep 9, 2009 01:10 | #196 |
| GUEST37105 | I am a Western woman, at 22 years old I fell in love with a Chinese man, 31 yrs old. At first yes I was so impressed with all of the kindness. However, only in my experience, it is extremely hard to live with the double standard. He can say whatever when he is mad, but cannot handle it if I do. If I do something he does not like, he came do the same and not only not take responsibility for it, but feel I need to make it up too, or change my actions. If not, affection, kindness and general understanding is removed. Then the tables seem different. Where is the man I married? How did he take total control of all aspects of life and make me feel bad for ever questioning anything. It is a way I am starting to worry about. He admits that he does wrong, and does not fill the need to change it. He said it was not as bad or he had an excuse, so therefore, it is wiped away. No matter how I try to explain, or make him understand, he says he is not wrong, I am. Any advice for how or what to do in handling culture? He says no one ever questions him. But, I feel as his wife their are things I need to know and I am not happy being shut off. His feeling on me answering and explaining however is a must with no exception, because he points out, a chinese woman would never stand up to a man. Well, I am not Chinese. Please help. |
| Sep 9, 2009 01:17 | #197 |
| GUEST37105 | I am in love with my husband. He is from China, and I am White. We could not look more different. Blond hair, blue eyes, tall. He is short. I didn't care about any of that. I had a daughter, was young, and he cared for me and treated me so well, we have been married 22 years, but things are not all easy. He uses culture issues to excuse bad behaviour. He is never wrong, and a double standard is common. This is only speaking about me, not to offend anyone as I still love him, but stop with the crap! If I need to call you and answer your questions no matter how stupid, then do the same. treat me as you want to be treated. We are working on this. I had hoped a chinese woman would give advice on how to handle a proud man who won't admit wrong or say sorry, and if I question him, it is always, "None of your business", or don't ask me, I don't remember. If I said something like that, the world would end. Help |
| Sep 9, 2009 01:19 | #198 |
| GUEST37105 | I personally do not feel it matters what color you are if you fall in love. I am white and chose a Chinese man, have beautiful children, and am trying to live in both areas. |
| Sep 9, 2009 01:47 | #199 |
| GUEST5972 | GUEST37105, it's men's frailty that they are afraid of losing face. Men are reluctant to admit their mistakes, especially in front of women. It's not only Chinese men but men from the West share the same characteristics. From the experience of my interaction with Chinese men, I find that Chinese men are not good at "saying sorry". They probably think that saying sorry to others (particularly to women is humiliated. In public occasion, they may afraid to lose face by appologizing to their wives. Other men may think " they are henpecked". In my opinion, you should give your husband's face in public and never condemn him. When at home, he should say sorry to you. You can talk to him about "face issue" at home. |
| Sep 10, 2009 01:43 | #200 |
| GUEST83224 | I was engaged to a japanese man for a year he never bought sex so dont think they all are like that  |
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