| Why do overseas Chinese men seldom marry western women? | |
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| Sep 16, 2009 18:52 | #201   |
| GUEST62353 | Face? What face? I think it is more about control than anything else. GUEST37105, I think your husband is just using cultural differences to justify his actions. Not all Chinese men are aggressive. In my family, (I am Cantonese), my mom is the aggressive one, while my dad is the passive one, even though my dad is the one with the brain and provided food for the family. Most of my cousin's families are shared equally, but there are some cases I know that either the man or the woman takes control of the relationship. That can happen in any relationship Whites, Latinos or Chinese. My wife (she is also blond) and I share decisions on an almost equal level, and when we do argue, we never use culture to justify our disagreement. Don't let him dictate your actions, and remember, this is more about control than cultural differences. |
| Sep 19, 2009 01:41 | #202 |
| GUEST26193 | Quote:Originally Posted by GUEST37105 You should dump your dumbass hubby,I'm sure that you can get something way better than his short and thin dick. |
| Sep 22, 2009 21:22 | #203 |
| GUESTJENNY | I have been to China several times. Chinese men are mostly noted for their care for the family. They often show their tender loving care for the family. They are keen on looking after their children and showing their loving concern for their wives. They know how to respect their women. I often saw that Chinese men open the door and carry the handbags for women when they went shopping together. IMHO, they are more gentlemanly than a lot of western guys I have encountered in my life. To tell the truth, western men are losing their traditional gentleman manners. In UK where the typical “gentlemanship” was born, numerous Brits will let you down if you expect them to be gentlemanly. Nowadays, men from the West are constantly complaining that western women have lost the feminity due to the ‘Feminist Movement”. Do you know how they interpret “feminity”? Submissive? As new career women, women are sharing their husband’s financial burndern to support the family. After an exhausting workday, why do you expect women to do the cooking while you just sit on the couch watching TV? I have heard that Chinese men help their wives do the cooking and household chores. Few western men help their women with their chore and cooking. Admittedly, Chinese men don’t have a good image in the west because Western media, especially Hollywood movies, uglified their image. |
| Sep 23, 2009 16:15 | #204 |
| GUEST54110 | Jealous GUEST26193? Good for you! Don’t listen to him GUEST37105. It is easier said than done. Most people marry because of attraction or love. It would be a total waste to just walk out from a marriage without trying to repair it first. Talk to your husband, see a counselor if you need to. Do everything you can to repair your marriage, and if things don’t work out, then try a more aggressive approach. Whatever you do, remember to do it in on an equal term. Don’t let him take control! |
| Oct 1, 2009 22:52 | #205 |
| GUEST72146 | Hi, every one, greeting from Beiing, China, I am a successful business executive and graduated from America before. I am 36, single, 182 cm tall. I have traditional values. I am very gentle, loving, humble, easy-going and most of all honest and sincere.I am here searching for that one woman right who's outer beauty should match with her inner one.also must share similar values and qualities. I work hard and try to enjoy life as much as possible. I like travling, mellow music, nice novels, cooking, romantic movies, opera and so on. If i ever find her i will treat her like my queen, equal half and will lover her with all my heart for the rest of my life. that is the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth.So if you think you are that miss right please look me up,I promise you that you won't be disappointed.Thank you and good luck to all us here searching for true love and relation. My email is yahoo.com|mikegao75 so we can exchange photos. |
| Oct 5, 2009 00:47 | #206 |
| GUEST21160 | Maybe because they are married back home ? and that their belief doesnt just apply to western looking women but also for non western women that Chinese are for Chinese and that they have to stick to their own? and of course feng shui compatibility is also important to them. |
| Oct 18, 2009 10:50 | #207 |
| GUESTCHINESE... | Quote:Originally Posted by GUESTSAMIHU As a young, white, American woman...I don't get it. I find Chinese men very attractive. I would love to date/marry/have beautiful, bilingual, 1/2 Chinese babies with a good Chinese man. :)I'm a young and strong Chinese man as tall as 1.86m. I might get a researcher's position in US next year. Feeling very sad and even being annoyed o know that some white people look down upon Chinese men, I really appreciate what you said. Thank you very much. It'll be my honor to become your friend. |
| Oct 29, 2009 23:40 | #208 |
| GUEST81262 | i am interested in the idea of humans having 50 eye colours 60 hair colours, by genetic engieering,asians, negros, europeans,so that I ,WILL RULE OVER US,I believe in the docrine of the supreme white man, i dont believe in the supreme WHITE MEN,groups, piggy orwellain thoughts,THE RIGHTS OF MAN NOT THE RIGHTS OF MEN? What is needed is the idea of WORKS NOT WORDS,THE UN IS PART OF THE PROBLEM,IT IS NOT THE UNITED HUMAN LIFE FORM, How do we construct a, political moral construct of works not words alone that enables us as humans to avoid, germ war, atomic,in the 21 century,we are in danger of allowing things to drift into KAOS,a belief in good intensions is not good enough |
| Nov 2, 2009 16:17 | #209 |
| GUESTJELLYBEAN | "It's all very simple...... Chinese men are smarter than Western men. *hehehehe* ROFLOL No offense intended to the Western women. Seriously, the American women I've discussed this with do not seem to be attracted to Asian men. I've never men a Western man who did not find Asian women wonderfully attractive. Perhaps that is part of it. Asian men are not attracted to the bigger Western woman and Western women are not attracted to Asian men." Extreemly untrue. My husbend and I have a great deal of attraction to eachother. When we first met I was a not larg but, I did have a little chuck on me and I still have it today. He moved here from China. When we got together I was extreemly attractied to him. It is true what you say about American min though. Thats one reason why I married my Chinese husbend. The biggest reasion was and still is for love. After the years that we have been together he still makes me happy. Yes! He is a little controlling but, its nothing thats to bad. "Put on gloves wile washind dishes, wash your face, help me wash my cloths." Small stuff that I would do anyone else if they were my husbend. He has never kep my from my family and I will never keep him form his family. Everyone has got most of these guys wrong. Its the Japaniese that is like that to there women. Do alot more resurch befor you accuses them of a problem thats not even there race to begin with. |
| Nov 2, 2009 23:18 | #210 |
| GUEST09102 | Have a Chinese lover--smart, confident, cute, sexy...perfect except for one thing...he's a mamma's boy. Well past 40 and still runs his life according to his mother's wishes. |
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