Once you marry a Chinese woman, it is tantamount to marrying her entire family.

Once you marry a Chinese woman, it is tantamount to marrying her entire family.
Nov 26, 2015 00:33	#101
GUEST42088	Raindrop you are spot on. I have been married to a Chines lady for near on 20 years. No.1. Once you married to a Chinese, it is tantamount to marrying her entire family. 100% correct. I have sent her son to uni t do a masters and not one word of thanks and yet it was not my legal duty to do so. The poor family member scenerio is always played out. - It is often because many foriegners marry below their class. I married equal to my class and have been expected to help those less well off than I but those better off never ask for a hand out. They have never offered support for my children who are worse off than them. This is a one way street I am afraid to say. No.2. Once you live with Chinese, you do not have privacy any more. Musc the same everywhere with extended families. No.3. He is not allowed to tough anywhere at home. My wife also wraps the furniture and rug with plastic in order to keep them clean without dust. The perfectly layout of all furniture is all for look only. 100% everything is a facade to impress the relatives and friends no creature comforts at all. No.4. Chinese love meat. Variety is great as long as it is Chinese Sichuan food. No.5. Never quarrel with your Chinese wife. 100% correct you will never win and if you look like getting the upper edge she will start crying. No.6. They will drive your kids to death. Chinese families place too much pressure on the child. They need to ease up and relax. No. 7. Add to this and this also comes from friends in a similar situation as well as me. Yes the girls/ladies have good bodies and hold their ages better. They will kill you with sex until after the honeymoon then its primarilly conditional. Only met one couple that have above average connections and she is a 50 year old doctor and often Quotes, " Love (Sex) and good variable love practices is an integral part of a happy forefilling marriage." - Lucky Barstard is always smiling.

Nov 26, 2015 00:33

#101

GUEST42088

Raindrop you are spot on. I have been married to a Chines lady for near on 20 years.
No.1. Once you married to a Chinese, it is tantamount to marrying her entire family. 100% correct. I have sent her son to uni t do a masters and not one word of thanks and yet it was not my legal duty to do so. The poor family member scenerio is always played out. - It is often because many foriegners marry below their class. I married equal to my class and have been expected to help those less well off than I but those better off never ask for a hand out. They have never offered support for my children who are worse off than them. This is a one way street I am afraid to say.

No.2. Once you live with Chinese, you do not have privacy any more. Musc the same everywhere with extended families.

No.3. He is not allowed to tough anywhere at home. My wife also wraps the furniture and rug with plastic in order to keep them clean without dust. The perfectly layout of all furniture is all for look only. 100% everything is a facade to impress the relatives and friends no creature comforts at all.

No.4. Chinese love meat. Variety is great as long as it is Chinese Sichuan food.

No.5. Never quarrel with your Chinese wife. 100% correct you will never win and if you look like getting the upper edge she will start crying.

No.6. They will drive your kids to death. Chinese families place too much pressure on the child. They need to ease up and relax.

No. 7. Add to this and this also comes from friends in a similar situation as well as me. Yes the girls/ladies have good bodies and hold their ages better. They will kill you with sex until after the honeymoon then its primarilly conditional. Only met one couple that have above average connections and she is a 50 year old doctor and often Quotes, " Love (Sex) and good variable love practices is an integral part of a happy forefilling marriage." - Lucky Barstard is always smiling.

Dec 7, 2015 18:54

#102

GUEST25229

I think my 4 year marriage to my Chinese wife is sadly coming to an end. She says I always argue and then brings up something that happened over a year ago. She's a very poor housekeeper and a so so cook. I wasn't looking for a maid but a wife. She has a 24 year old son in China that she acts like is 10. He has no desire to live in the U.S. She also doesn't like my daughters. She left me a couple of weeks ago and went back to China. She says she wants a divorce, but is coming back after spending Chinese New Year with her family for some reason. We barely communicate, but I tell her how much I love and miss her...I don't know if she is punishing me or what. I don't think I want her back

Dec 7, 2015 23:10

#103

GUEST01947

HSV068, Hi Guys and Gals, been a member of Nanning and China Forum for a few years, it is still going, but posts are slow these days, so thought I would have a look around and found here. Bit of background

Initially emails to my now Chinese wife for a few months, she was having free time off work for 2 weeks and requested I come to meet her.
Had never left OZ before, so a big adventure was to begin, she met me at Nanning (wuxi) airport with her girlfriend, and had organised another friend to drive us to our hotel, some had mininal english, some none, but it was a very relaxed meeting, very friendly.

My wife is a country girl, both parents are deceased, and we went to Shangsi, Guangxi Province to meet her sisters and brother, after having a family dinner they would not allow me to pay anything for.
After reading hundreds of disaster stories, I feel mine is fairly special.

Her family have been so supportive of us, even now, welcoming me as
I am, certainly make me feel like family.

6 months later, we had organised for Jin to visit OZ, tourist visa, showed her from Mornington Peninsula to Alice Springs, own vehicle transport, some motels, some camping, she loved that trip, must have taken a million photos (chinese way), we had discussed marriage and she agreed, so Oct 11 was Mday.

Jin returned to Nanning and searched for an apartment for us to live,
I left OZ early Dec, and she had made a great choice, which was our home for the next 30 odd months, when we returned to Australia in May 2014.

We are waiting on the second part of her 820/801 visa, permenant residence.

Just to sum up, if I can be of help to anyone who is somewhat involved with any of the processes we have walked, be happy to help.

Very happy and certainly no regrets, guess I chose wisely,
Cheers Roger

Jan 14, 2016 19:45

#104

GUEST87672

I was married to a Chinese girl for two and a half year out of the five that we known each other, I found it very hard in a sense that everything had to be done according to her culture, it was frustrating for a guy who is half Latino half Italian living in Australia, and our family is not strict about anyone's culture, we welcome anyone, she also once we we're married didn't want to compromise or meet any of my closest friends or anyone for that fact, she kept saying that she didn't know what to say to them, I always love my ex wife now, even after we were divorce, I always respected her family, friends here in Australia and China, I always went out of my way to do anything for her, but it seem to her it was never enough, she also couldn't understand how in our culture we do things 50/50, that's how you get ahead by helping each other out no matter what and moving forward, that is just my small experience of being married to a Chinese girl, everyone experiences is different

Jan 15, 2016 07:45	#105
SINOS Points: Join Date: Jan 11, 2016 Status: Offline	The Chinese girl I dated the longest had non of these issue, nor did I observe any of them with her friends. I really don't agree with the notion that these are common traits for Chinese girls. The real issue might be that many foreigners settle for the leftovers that Chinese men didn't want.

Feb 14, 2016 22:02	#106
GUEST29196	Omg your post is amazing this is so true she controlled me if I say no it's her way or nothing but she does this so good with the wording I was shocked reading your post just amazed thank god we have gone our separate way's

Feb 16, 2016 07:33

#107

GUEST50236

When going out with a Chinese girl you are now a slave. Change car oil fix their house electrical plumbing etc. and you pay for the parts. They only know 3 expressions chairful, no good and too much money. Sharpen up your chainsaw and get ready to cut cut cords of wood to heat their house (electric too much money). Better have a good understanding of all their paperwork you'll be filling out reams of it. You'll find out it's a one-way street. If you find a good one find one for me. Lol!

Mar 1, 2016 18:08	#108
GUEST20199	There is a snobbery among Chinese women.The one you married is a deluded woman and nasty surely you could see through her or were the rose colored glasses working too well. My experience with Chinese women has been amazing and absolutely marvelous no problems like you describe.

Mar 1, 2016 18:17	#109
GUEST20199	You are so correct about the brainwashing even with the ones that have taken the Western Business life in China all screaming they hate China and want to be in the West.

Mar 2, 2016 02:59

#110

GUEST20232

I have to say, I agree for most of them, but I don't think it's a bad thing though. The family thing is cos Chinese young people usually are the single child, they are the only thing their parents care about. And they leave their parents for their husband all the way here, it's understandable that the parents wanna be more involved and closer to their only daughter. But nowadays, I don't think there will be people just open the bathroom door without knocking, that's only for people from last 2 generations... Yeah, I would wanna know where are u what u doing with who, to be honest, most times is not cos I really wanna know, it's just a way to show U that I care about u, to make u feel good that I think u r attractive to other women. We wanna push the kids to learn this and that, and I still think it's a good thing. I like to clean all the mess my husband like to make after his "cooking", that's why I'd rather cook myself just cos his huge mess! But I think that depends on the women, not all Chinese lady like to clean, but I'm one of the clean ones, and I'm proud of it. Why people think like to be clean is a bad thing? We like plan stuff, we wanna buy a house before we spend money on some other not so important stuff, and how is that be a bad thing again? We wanna our kid study we'll go to graduate school, we have experienced it all, know how difficult it is to make a living, there will be a better chance if the kid got equipped with degree and knowledge. That's wrong as well? My parents got plans for their life, that's why they have the money to help me buy the house, my husbands parents on the other hand, used all their money for their own not so good hobby, end up can't help us. I'm not saying it's wrong, but I wouldn't say what my parents did is wrong either. Got life planned, be able to help the ones you love and care, what's wrong with that?

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