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Once you marry a Chinese woman, it is tantamount to marrying her entire family.
Mar 2, 2016 03:04
#111  
GUEST20232 Dating is different from marriage life. What u said just more wrong than the original post...
Mar 5, 2016 11:11
#112  
GUESTNITIN Ahhh what should i write .. I found a chinese girl . when i saw her i fell in lovw with her 2 days i met her talk her ,the thing is going bad once when i put her wallpaper on my destop .. She reply its not good in china .. Bla bla and she gone.. So point is that . chinese girls have heart like china toy. Any time broke .. After that she gone .. Am still wait for her .. If u find her .. Give my email id .. Tantagurushakti@ gmail .com , her name is rita tsang .
Mar 7, 2016 17:50
#113  
GUEST22255 You nailed it!
Mar 24, 2016 21:02
#114  
GUESTDODS They are more worried about the stock market going up than anything else going up My experience
May 17, 2016 14:16
#115  
GUEST13110 My brother lived in China for 5 years. 3 of those spent with a Chinese girl he ended up marrying and having a child with. They came to America. At first, things were rough. She had a hard time adapting, and it took a revisit with friends and family in China for her to realize that America is a good home for her and their child. Ever since, they have been happy. None of the negatives people post are true.
I'm on Chinese girlfriend number 2. First girlfriend I dated for nearly a year. She had her goals and ideas, but her anxiety is what killed our relationship. She couldn't bring herself to leave her job, family, or life behind in China to be with me in America. In reality, our cultural differences got in the way. She is very pro-China and found so many "wrongs" with Western cultures and lifestyle. Naturally, she broke it off with me when the time for her to get serious about our future knocked on her door.
Chinese girlfriend number 2... A complete opposite of girlfriend number 1. And she absolutely loves America. So much that she's spending her entire 6-month visa staying with me. Naturally I'm suspicious and we've started having our serious talks about things like family and finances; because I learned much from girlfriend number 1, and my brother's wife. So far, no red flags, and I do see marriage with her right around the corner. She is a wonderful woman to me. A real loving sweetheart. But I'm trying to find out if all that will change after marriage, as her son now has came into the picture of our relationship.
I'm convinced though...like any other person in this world, there are good people and bad people. Sure our cultures may be different, but what makes us civilized humans never changes. I'm just want to know my girlfriend better before I say "I do". Unfortunately I only have a few months left before she has to leave. Good luck to me.
May 18, 2016 12:37
#116  
GUEST03235 well all u said here is true but u hv to know what u want in life before anything asians like to be in controle not only chinese but other asian.thailand too,india,vietnam or so on but open ur eyes very well before u make ur decisions or who to marry.
May 27, 2016 16:31
#117  
GUESTTIM You need to take into consideration the region your new wife is from, is she manderian or Cantonese or other, all this is important. My wife is so loving and caring, and never pushes her point of view on anybody. She accepts my family and would never force her family on me. She has the most wonderful family and accept me as a family member. my wife is old school Cantonese and makes me feel like most important man in the world.
Jun 1, 2016 07:21
#118  
GUEST24242 I am a 63 year old man who has been married to a Malaysian Chinese woman for over 20 years. When I married my wife we were both in my forties. She is four years older than me. There are huge cultural differences. Be very careful. The distinction between the truth and a lie does not exist among mainland or overseas Chinese as it does in the West. If a lie will avoid an immediate conflict Chinese people will easily lie and feel no moral guilt. Lying does not carry the negative stigma in Chinese culture that it has in the West.

The family is of number one importance to Chinese woman. If you marry a woman with children you will never be able to enter the inner sanctum in which the mother and children reside. As they become adults this situation becomes much worse. In some ways you may be treated as an outsider in your own home.

The biggest problem you may face is communication. Make sure your future wife has taken at least a year of ESL classes. Communication is a very difficult issue for Chinese without a language barrier, let alone with one. Remember you are marrying both your wife and her family. If you have children from a previous marriage do not expect your new wife to warmly except them in the way you would except her children. She may reject this totally without any feelings of guilt or remorse. Prepare for your Chinese wife to be controlling. She wil not think to research whether she is right or wrong. For her , her tradition is always right.

Finally you may find that Chinese woman for not apologize for mistakes or bad things she has done. She may never apologize for the lies she assuredly will tell you. Her family will lie to you. Good luck.
Jun 10, 2016 18:34
#119  
GUEST44224 My Dad married a Chinese women and ended up having the most miserable four years of his life.

Just be aware of the culture difference - It's huge and sometimes
insurmountable. Make sure you really know your potential wife. Consider every detail carefully- family, moral compass, launguage level and motivation.
You roll the dice at the start of any relationship, but with the Chinese you need to take it to the next level because when they are bad, they are B.A.D.
If your unlucky enough to get a bad one like my poor Dad. Good luck my frend, you'll be needing it.

Jun 21, 2016 18:47
#120  
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I have no clue where to start this, but here I go.

First of all (like my good Friend AJ always says) relationships are never easy.

Turns out that having a relationship with a Chinese woman/girl is even more complicated.

This story I’m going to write down is from my experiences I have had in China relating to that. And yeah peeps I’m not the only person this has happened to.

So a little side note: No I’m not that “laowai” aka foreigner that “hates” China And has nothing better to do with my life. (Yes in my first years of being in China I was most definitely like that)

I’m writing this for myself and more for others, because you need to know where you are getting yourself into. (Nothing against the mainland Chinese people btw) Yeah they do differ from Taiwan and HK and of course the ones born and or raised outside of China.

That being said, the mainland Chinese are in general very much the same in the way they think and do things. (Exception there of course). But cultural practices can very much differ from city to city (even within the city itself) let alone from province to province and from the south to the north east to west.

I’m originally from Holland and I’ll do my best to make you understand my “Chinglish”

I hope you can take your time to read it all, I’ll try to inform you to the best of my grammatical abilities.

I came to Fuzhou China (south of CN next to Taiwan) in the beginning of 2010 and was introduced to my (up north of china).By now my (ex-wife) by two other foreigners in the beginning of 2012.

She moved in soon after I met her (yeah that was my bad) and got married later that year on Dec 25th.Marry F-ing Christmas to me…(so it turned out) *ok I’ll try to keep the swearing down.

She was about 27 when I got married to her and I’m 6 year older. *pay attention now:When a Chinese “woman” is about 28 her mental age will be of that of an 12 year old girl by western standards. (Yeah she will be in puberty from about 20 till 40 on the average). All that comes with: Tantrums being unreasonable selfish and Childlike behavior.

(You should already see those warning signs before you get married) *yes I thought to myself the same as many of you guys reading this: It will al turn into a fairytale after we are married and have a kid or two.

Oh how wrong could one be, from expecting to go from a 5 to an 8 went from a 5 to a -0. (a 3 would already have been like Really F@#$@$cked up.)

Domination has begun: You become her little B$TCH and she is only going be me me me oh poor me...

Money Money Money (don’t worry you’ll end up with jack SH!T) She will mismanage all of your hard earned cash.(so keep money in your own bank account under your name) Don’t buy a house or car if you live in China because that will be under her name only. * Yeah I personally know of many foreigners that lost a lot of money that way. (And also with doing business with Chinese people in mainland China).

End of part one.
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