| Once you marry a Chinese woman, it is tantamount to marrying her entire family. | |
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| Mar 15, 2014 16:17 | #41   |
 | my previous reply was done before join in as a member, but would like your response to my email bellsouth.net|lipelaez, I send you a question under guest name Louis. march 15 2014 |
| Mar 27, 2014 01:19 | #42 |
| GUESTKIWI | I have been living here in China for the last year and a half. I came here because I met a Chinese woman online and I wanted to get to know her a lot better. I came here for a holiday to meet her first and then came back a couple of months latter and we got an apartment together. After four months living together I realized we were far too different from each other and a marriage would never work. It was not only the culture but also our age. I am 10 years older than her and have kids already etc. We wanted different things. So I ended the relationship because that was the right thing to do. I did love her but there was no long term future for us. A few days latter she came back to the apartment with her friends demanding that I move out. I had prepaid a years rent on the apartment and she had helped me when we moved in by signing the rental agreement that was all in Chinese (Big mistake). I had no choice and had to move out. I had no place that I could go straight away so I got them to agree to let me live in my apartment for a couple more weeks so that I had time to find a new home. To get them to agree to this I had to agree to leave my new 55" tv and two new mountain bikes and gym equipment etc. So I learned the hard way about Chinese woman and what they can be like. But like woman from every country not all are the same. I have moved on and have met another Chinese woman who is wonderful. So different to my ex girlfriend in almost every way. We have been living together in her apartment for the last 9 months and we are planning to get married soon. She is a fantastic woman and I have no regrets about coming to China any more. I know her family very well now and have no fears of them coming to live with us in the future. |
| Apr 3, 2014 03:10 | #43 |
| GUEST23672 | Unfortunately, the most stubborn will dominate in this (which is usually the Chinese) and the most adaptable (usually the foreigner) will have to compensate meaning they get the least of their cultural background or say in the matter, and as such the Chinese will usually get the benefit where as the foreigner will get ignored to the point it not being worth their time. |
| Apr 5, 2014 22:56 | #44 |
| This is an old article I have read long time ago. What an absurd article! Probably it was truth in 20 years ago, but definitely not for today. We Chinese girls absorbed so many information and knowledge from western countries. We are getting used to western culture, and love to share ours with westerners. Any relationships need compromises, pls don't put it in nationalities. Everyone is individual, you can't define any country's culture by "FEW TIPS", that's immutual and absurd. At mean time, look around, how many western guys are screwing around? They had got married in their countries,and come to start a relationship with Chinese girls, then get away. I admit that I feel so bad about there're so many Chinese gold digger girls out there, especially who come from countrysides (I'm sorry to say that, but they're real stories). But if you look for girls with a insincere heart, then don't ever expected to have sincere heart in return. Sorry about my irrelevant opinions. Any way, I'm sure in the modern time, intelligent couples know how to deal with culture gap. It's very difficult, but love can fix everything. My suggestion is: don't throw yourself into a marriage before you think it through. Probably some westerners would think it's easy to get divorce when the love is gone. But I have to say the first period of "love" is just a kind of passion. Don't let it blind you. After passion, the second stage of calm "love" is real love. Repeatly doing the same thing everyday. Two things will manage a marriage well: they are understanding and respect. Once you have these two things, you can work any kind of relationships out! Lastly, wish all of you and your loved ones well. Be kind, one to others! |
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| Apr 8, 2014 06:25 | #45 |
| GUEST02237 | I am actually a middle easter who lives in a western country. I am married to a Chinese girl and I can feel your pain. at first she was a very good girl. Till she received her residency. things slowly has started to change. we have a child. suddenly she surprised me with an idea. she wanted to invite her parents to live with us permanently. I didn't agree, I said its fine for a visit but not permanent stay. she invited them and guess what..they re here to stay. I had no idea when I was preparing their documents for their visa. then it only get worth. The mum is a control freak and I have strong personality too. we always have clashes.. she invited her self in away that made me feel I was the guest in the house..I am fed up with this and I am considering a divorce..i just think of the child at this stage..now, she yells at me and shouts all the time..i find work to be a way out of the house. so, i spend pretty much all the day at work. I regret big time I have done this mistake.. this is the biggest mistake of my life. |
| Apr 18, 2014 22:53 | #46 |
| GUEST30175 | This may be true for some, but not in my life. My wife and her family are as American as they are in America. I love my wife's family and they stay out of our business. I have to beg for them to visit. My wife's son has never asked me for anything, but has always been there if we needed help with anything. I have never been so happy as I am now. So some may have a problem, just not in my case. |
| Apr 26, 2014 04:53 | #47 |
| GUEST12368 | I Am USA and talking with a 44 year old Chinese woman she is coming to the USA AND WE WILL MARRY BUT SHE HAS TO GO BACK AND ME AS WELL IF MY SURGERY WORKS GREAT APPERANTLY THE GOVERNMENT HOLDS HER MONEY AND CAPITOL IS THIS DIFICULT FOR HER TO RECOVER SHE SAID IT,S WORTH A TON BUT FOR ME IT DONT MATTER IM RETIRED ARMY AND CLEAR 5500 MONTHLY THANKS FOR ANY HELP !!! SFCARMY:-) |
| May 15, 2014 20:46 | #48 |
| GUEST12920 | So it's not a good ideas to Married a Chinese women? |
| Jun 18, 2014 01:13 | #49 |
| GUESTPASEO | My friend is married to a Chinese woman. Everything with her is finding imperfections with Americans, the way white people do things and problems with the American culture. The Chinese can do no wrong in her eyes (even though we constantly see their toxic products being recalled in the U.S.)... She is a horrible housekeeper, which really surprises me, considering the fact Asian women generally seem to have the reputation of being good in that department. The house is always a mess. In light of the fact she is Asian, she's not really very good in the kitchen either, come to think of it. Then there's the voice. Ugh. This woman shrieks for her husband like an animal doing a mating call. I don't know how he can stand that whiney voice. He complains about her insecurity issues constantly, the way she treats him, repeatedly complains about how she makes him feel...he even threatened to leave the marriage at one point complaining she didn't know how to be a good wife. Don't believe the ongoing myth of the subservient Asian woman. Certainly not the Chinese anyway. While often demure and polite in public...get one of these behind closed doors and they'll tear you a new hole. |
| Jun 22, 2014 12:39 | #50 |
| GUEST87101 | I people all said above, in a certain way is truth. I marry a chinese and we live in Portugal. My wife is a pain in the ass. We met when I was in China working and she is not a passport catcher. however there are barrier impossible to cross. As a latin I do "Is my way or the highway!", there are many latin girls very pretty too. My advise is, avoid to marry with a chinese girl if you are not willing to complete change your principles and velues. |
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