| Once you marry a Chinese woman, it is tantamount to marrying her entire family. | |
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| Jun 25, 2014 13:59 | #51   |
| GUEST52114 | I am a Canadian and my wife is a Chinese. If your Chinese wife respects you her family won't live with you. Also, Our kids don't have so much pressure as your description. I think Chinese wife is really nice. |
| Jun 27, 2014 20:51 | #52 |
| GUEST50153 | I recently married my Chinese sweet heart in April. We met online in December 2102. Since that day, we have not missed a day without talking, emails, text, or even phones calls, She is younger and is in her 30's. I think is true, that they prefer older, more mature men, and even divorced as they believe he will be a better husband as he learned his lesson from his divorce, How can you argue that logic.. My wife dotes on me as I do her, She is the most beautiful romantic woman I have even known, she gets jealous, complains when I dont pay attention to her, makes me laugh to tears, is great with money, has good morals and wants to make a family with me, I am in heaven with her. I have been so hard on this wonderful women, so worried she wanted my money, (I dont have any) worried she wanted to live in Canada, (she hates the cold) worried she is not what she seems., I now know she is everything to me, She has a quick temper, demanding, can yell at times like no other, but I would not trade this beauty for 1000 queens, Here culture and parents raised her to respect her husband, respect her marriage, and she does indeed. Dont be too quick to judge, when it seems she is too good to be true, it may just be that she is as good as all this.. |
| Jun 28, 2014 00:51 | #53 |
| GUEST17193 | I married a white woman and far worse consequences ensued. Women are women. Pick a good one. |
| Jul 3, 2014 19:13 | #54 |
| GUEST44100 | You're so considerate! |
| Jul 16, 2014 14:17 | #55 |
| GUEST17362 | Don't know what attracted some of you to your Chinese Wife. Humor was ours. She's always found the cultural differences funny. She was really innocent and naïve when we married, but after viewing a few *** movies she mastered a few things. Believe me I'm a very happy man. She handles the money. Doesn't let me spend money foolishly, but if my heart is set on something she'll insist I get the best. I'm completely spoiled and worship the ground she walks on. She's close to her family. It took them awhile to accept this white boy. 30 years and we're still on our honeymoon. She looks as good as she did 30 years ago even though a mother of two successful young men she lit a fire under to succeed. I hope I die before her because I wouldn't want to live without her. |
| Aug 13, 2014 16:00 | #56 |
| GUEST20107 | Well, since you've not had anyone on this site complain about being married to a Chinese woman, let me be the first. I got scammed, plain and simple. I met my wife on an online dating service, I was in my early '50's, she was in her mid '40's. She never once asked for money or to have me bring her entire family over although I did sponsor her adult son. She arrived in the states almost six years ago and up until last March, pretty much everything seemed pretty good; I thought she was happy. Then with little warning, and after I wouldn't turn over full control of the business we were starting to her and her son, she walked away. She has since moved half way across the country (I only know this after a lot of detective work) and refuses to tell me where she is or give me an address to send the divorce paperwork. Like I said, I was able to find her working in an Asian massage parlor and is having her son's g/f call my attorney complaining that I am "harassing" her because I needed a current address to serve her with the divorce paperwork which she wanted in the first place. I firmly believe that after everything that has happened, she used me to get her here and once she became familiar with the states, to then get out on her own. She now has her own life but has left me deeply in debt, not only from the expense of getting her and her son here but also the bills from the business she probably didn't want in the first place and just walked away from. I sought out a Chinese woman because I was under the impression they were more family orientated and dedicated to their husband. Man, was I sadly mistaken. So my advice to the men out their looking for a Chinese wife, DON'T DO IT! You will only regret it in the end. |
| Aug 19, 2014 03:55 | #57 |
| GUESTJOHN | I've been with my wife who is Mainland Chinese for 3 years now and married the last 2. We have a beautiful 8 month old daughter and I can honestly say, I'm deeply and profoundly in love with her. Even though she bares some of the negative descriptions mentioned above, I have never felt more loved or closer to any person in my life before. I once heard the experience that "a Chinese woman would take a bullet for her husband". Here's how I've come to believe this to be true, as I've seen it a number of times. Growing up in the west I have on many occasions seen a woman grab or fall into the arms of her man should a car come a little too close as they're crossing a street, or if she gets spooked by an unforeseen event or occurrence that would cause one's reflexes to seek safety. In any one of these these instances, and there have been a few (living in China) these past couple of years, my wife, faster than I could blink an eye either got in front of me or pulled me back to safety. Yes, wimpy on my part but I don't have her reflexes and I can also say I've seen this many times before with other Chinese women jumping to protect their loved ones. Any foreigner who's lived in China for any amount of time has seen a granny sporting leopard skin patterned leggings and high heels while expertly zig zagging on a scooter with 2 grand kids in tow. All this to say, is they're fearless, strong and will do anything to protect their the ones they love. I've never seen anything like this back in Canada. My Chinese wife is a little bit more as she's studied martial arts since she was a teenager and can take me down in a heartbeat, so, yes, I not only feel loved by this incredibly beautiful woman, but I have a body guard to boot. All this to say, everyone is different, good and bad anywhere, so take your time and try to see the real person, not just the beauty standing before you. |
| Aug 22, 2014 07:29 | #58 |
| GUESTTWVW | I am a New Zealand guy and married a BJ girl. Just to clear things up we are both the 33, so it's not like I am an old guy marring some young woman. Here are a few points I think any guy should know before marring a chinese women. 1st chinese culture is so strong that they do not mix in with local society a well as you might expect. Just because she speaks great English doesn't mean she is westernised. 2nd think that chinese people are superior than other races, you'll hear about 5,000 years of history, etc, etc. 3rd only daughter, because they are only children they lack communication skills with others and are used to getting what they won't. 4th spoilt little brats, because they are the only child there mother and father do everything for them. Cook, clean and treat them like gods. I am guessing this only applys to well educated chinese. 5th don't expect them to clean or do any work, because china is a structured class system they are used to having someone else do these tasks. 6th family, she is most likely not used to dealing with extended family. This will take some time. 7th don't be fooled by how easy they are when you start dating. The easier they are the more chance is that they will be harder down the track. |
| Sep 12, 2014 16:59 | #59 |
| GUEST51834 | I'm American and married a Chinese woman. 33 years old. I'm 40. Dating was a dream. Very sweet, sincere and rather subsidiary to me. We talked about everything, money, family, etc. All seemed according to plan. We lived together for several months before the wedding. Married. 2 months into it she started to say things like, "I don't like your children visiting so much". I have a custody schedule that I follow and she knew about. Then she didn't like my cat and forced me to give it up. Shortly after he's gone she wants to get a new pet together. Then I find that I'm in violation of so many Chinese customs. I say hello to her friends when they visit. That's a no-no. I went so far as to hug one and never heard the end of it. Umm, I think in America we hug as a form of greeting or departure. I need to check my phone at the door and leave it open for her inspection every night. Then I discover that she is channeling money to another bank account "for her daughter's future". This was not discussed or decided jointly. I can go on. Bottom line, in my experience, Chinese wives are attractive, sexy and good a luring American men. But they can be very controlling and domineering. I'd take an extensive test ride before buying the next Chinese model. Good luck. |
| Oct 2, 2014 00:17 | #60 |
| GUEST???,?????? | For whoever wrote this, thank you. I found your words to ring true with the many feeds of information I have had coming in. I am soon to go to China to marry an 'over 30' woman. We met by way of a coworker. His Chinese wife's best friend. I also have stewed over whether I'm ultimately being used for a citizenship in another country. My coworker assures me this isn't the case. I go certainly with trepidation but a healthy dose of reality. You confirmed what I already know of women and Chinese women. Pick your battles. And. Happy wife, happy life. To have a woman in my life that has standards and is concerned with status, is far preferred to someone who cares about neither. Now I just need to survive a 21 hour flight, 3 hour car ride. Sleep? One day to shop for last minute details. Register for marriage certificate. Dinner with the new in-laws ( whose English is less than my Mandarin). Then a banquet with 50+ people I've never met who don't speak English as a first language. I'm aiming for being mostly upright by the honeymoon. 恭喜您 |
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