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| Oct 16, 2010 13:05 | #411   |
| GUEST19231 | I see a whole bunch of reasons: western men are educated to be able to think independently, they are led to be creative, while the chinese society, however liberal it might seem on the surface, still leads the individual to be conform, efficient and to master the codified way of behaviour and thinking. This together with the different requirements of men and women are, I think, two of the main reasons for the discussed phenomenon. While the most women seek for a strong opinioned, inventive, witty partner, most men are pleased with a good looking, tender and faithful woman. Many western men have a difficulity with independent, assertive western women, who they feel, challenge their confidence in their own masculinity. Having a Chinese woman definitely makes one feel more masculine. The opposite can be said about having a chinese guy - but the female role has become something generally eschewed by both sexes in the west. Besides, chinese women are better gennetically disposed to be slim, while western men are better disposed to be tall. These are the ideals in both societies. The third explanation is econommical, but this is probably not the main reason, becuase there are still more japanese-woman-western-man couples then the opposite. But there definitely ARE also the opposite couples. In such couples, that I've known, either the man has been an exceptionally strong personality, for the Chinese standards, and seeking excitement rather than comfort, or the woman exceptionally meek for the western standards. As for me, I respect the female rights of equality, but still I prefer to live with a Chinese woman. The female role has changed in the west, but not the male. So it is definitely more satisfying for a western male to have a chinese female partner. |
| Oct 17, 2010 11:37 | #412 |
 | GUEST19231, It's not true. It's your ideal woman NOT a Chinese woman. |
| Oct 28, 2010 02:51 | #413 |
| GUEST71885 | iam in love with one chines girl but as im Indian and from a traditional family it will be hard for me to make my family accept her any how love is beyond country region cast and creed love just happens that all |
| Nov 23, 2010 08:38 | #414 |
| GUEST32183 | First of all, you see chinese women with western men because the only thing they care about is status, money, and they want to get the hell out of china to be able to support their chinese family. I can tell you this because I've met several chinese women who married whoever western man with under-average income would proposed to them. The minute they know you are foreign they want to marry you. A chinese woman will "love you" and do whatever the man wants as long as you have money to support her. Second, you don't see any western woman with a chinese men because of the cultural difference there is. Most of the chinese men aren't sophisticated enough for the standards of western women. Again, I can tell this to you because I've been with a chinese men (born in china) for about 5 years and having gone to china, I can understand very well why westerns women don't like chinese. They lack western manners and they don't want to integrate to the western culture. |
| Nov 23, 2010 08:40 | #415 |
| GUEST32183 | How can you even say that? They will marry whoever offers them financial support thoughout their life and they will fake what you call "love" |
| Nov 23, 2010 17:12 | #416 |
| GUEST24237 | First of all, you see the majority of chinese women going off to marry western men because of their nationality, they want to get the hell out of china so they'll marry whoever proposes to them. All the chinese women I've met that married westerns have done so excusively for that reason. I can't believe how the men doesn't even realise it... As long as you have another nationality chinese women will fall "in love" with you. Second, you don't see chinese men with western girls because the cultural difference is too greate. In our eyes, most chinese men lack manners, aren't educated enough and lack common sense when it comes to a relationship, they just can't give us what we need. I guess it is because they have this idea that women has to be "passive" and stay home waiting for their man. As some other person said before, they just can't offer what we need; excitment, adventure, being romantic, etc etc etc. Of course, some of you can, and again, I can tell you this because I've been dating a chinese (raised in china) for the past 5 years and I intend to marry him. And finally, to answer to the main question of this discussion: why marry a chinese girl? Because she will be glad to stay home, clean and cook for you her whole life without complaining. Also, you won't have to compete with her professionally because she won't have any ambition whatsoever. |
| Dec 6, 2010 19:53 | #417 |
| Quote:Originally Posted by GUEST24237 And finally, to answer to the main question of this discussion: why marry a chinese girl? Because she will be glad to stay home, clean and cook for you her whole life without complaining. Also, you won't have to compete with her professionally because she won't have any ambition whatsoever. I disagree. I am a 48 widower spanish man and I am about to marry a divorced 38 years old chinese woman. She manages the building family company and she doesn't want to stay at home prepairing my dinner. My wife was an engineer and she was the production manager of a Siemens subsidiary in Spain. I never thought I was in some "competition" against her. And I never will with my chinese bride, either, of course. She has a professional life, like me. I am the purchases manager in a spanish machinery company and I am sure she is with me because we met and we fall in love with each other. She doesn't need me for having three meals everyday and I am sure she can manage her own life in the future like she does now. I like the way how she accepts our cultural and economical differences, we accept that we came from two different worlds and we think (both of us) that this makes ourselves grow as people. I trust she will marry me one day due to the same reason that my spanish wife married me 18 years ago: myself. If I weren't sure, of course I will never marry her. Being a foreing man is a different thing of being a dumbass. Wo shi wai, wo bu shi ben dan :P |
| Dec 6, 2010 20:53 | #418 |
| Being a foreing man is a different thing of being a dumbass. Wo shi wai, wo bu shi ben dan :P Wo Shi Lao Wai, Dan Shi Wo Bu Shi Ben Dan, Hehe. It means "我是老外，但我不是笨蛋" |
| Jan 1, 2011 21:46 | #419 |
| I'm just happy that this is a positive discussion and that their are no one in this thread stereotyping us Chinese.  Where I grew up in the U.S. there has always been people insulting us CHinese due to the media saying we are "chinks"  it has displayed a poor image how wonderful CHina really is. Really sad actually. I'm glad some people (in this thread) are seeing a postive and true image of us CHinese us genuinly kind hearted, beautiful, and smart and not the stereotype we have here in the U.S.  |
| Jan 4, 2011 13:17 | #420 |
| Quote:Originally Posted by JINGH Where I grew up in the U.S. there has always been people insulting us CHinese due to the media saying we are "chinks" it has displayed a poor image how wonderful CHina really is. Really sad actually. ... This stereotype is not only in USA, but in Europe too. Here in Spain, when somebody wants to say that something is a bad quality product, usually says "chinese" or "bought in a chinese bazar". And sometimes I must remember them that everyday they are paying european prices to european companies for made in China products. And it's exactly the same concept among men about chinese women. I have some chinese friends and my GF is chinese too. I tell people that I met kind, cultivated, fun and beautiful girls and women and they can't believe. Thare's no a worse blind than who doesn't want to see, we say in spanish... |
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